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07 October 2011

Say Their Names :: For Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Day

Last year, I marked October 15 for the first time. It was the first time I could be counted amongst the one in four women who lose a child to miscarriage, stillbirth, or early infant death (the CDC defines "early infant death" as the death of a child prior to one year of age). Like the others who are counted in that one in four, it has been and continues to be important to me that the life of the child I lost is not trivialized. It is important to me that my son's life is acknowledged.

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On October 15 of last year, my grief was so fresh. We had buried my son less than a week prior. Something like this would not have been possible. Now there's something I'd like to do to acknowledge not just my loss, but if you are included in that one in four, your loss as well. If I'm going to do that, I need your help to make it happen.

Please take a look at the below video and consider whether or not you'd like to participate.






For a written summary of the video (or to review in writing the details included in the video), see the Say Their Names link at the top of the page.

For those of you wishing to participate, please make your submissions no later than Friday, October 14 by 3 p.m. (EST).

If you wish to include a Say Their Names badge on your own blog as a way of inviting others to participate, there is a badge available at the top of the sidebar on the left. The badge will link to the Say Their Names page at the top of the blog, which also contains a link to this post. Badge size is 220 x 147 pixels.

Or you can grab it here:

say their names

149 comments:

  1. Natasha Anastasia Forgie (Four-gee)

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  2. Benjamin Friel, Brooke Friel, Ryan Friel(prounounce Freel).

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  3. Emma Frances and Sophia Marie Mackey (Mack-key)

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  4. Sawyer Erik Williams http://sawyersheart.blogspot.com

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  5. Noah Paul Weinshrott (wine-shrott)

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  6. Alexis Jade and the other 18 Holliday babies.
    (I don't know how else to include them- I had 17 m/c's including 1 set of twins thank you for including them)

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  7. I miscarried my baby at 5 weeks, so of course I don't know if my first baby was a boy or girl, but I do know that in Heaven, I will meet that precious first child of mine!! I have talked openly to my 2 boys about them having a brother or sister that they will meet in Heaven!! Thank you for remembering my child.

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  8. Baby Gabriel Bonnett (m/c)
    Baby Ransym Bonnett (m/c)
    Seth Douglas Bonnett

    (Bonnett is pronounced like a bonnet you wear on your head)

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  9. My baby brother, born still at 24 weeks. Elijah Christopher Lovelace.

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  10. Hezekiah Samuel Risner
    Tabitha Grace Risner

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  11. Brenna McNeil
    Brantley McNeil
    Thank you so much for doing this! <3

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  12. my niece, baby Hope, lost at 37 weeks

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  13. Sophia Lynn Dumontel (do-montel) 8-17-2008

    second cousin to Natasha Anastasia Forgie (four-gee)

    Angles in heaven together.

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  14. Maggie Elizabeth or Tomas Carmelo m/c 11/2000 at 7 weeks(Tomas pronounced like Thomas).

    Kirsten, thank you for acknowledging miscarriage as a very real and painful loss.

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  15. Sara Elizabeth Moothart
    Benjamin Joseph Moothart
    Abigail Renee Moothart
    Robert Emmanuel Moothart

    Renee is pronounced "Ren-ay" and Moothart is pronounced "Moot-heart"

    Thank you for including those of us who have miscarried our children. It is good to have our loss acknowledged alongside yours.

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  16. baby Cook('11) and
    baby Schappell('07)

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  17. oops.. Schappell is pronounce (sha-pell)

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  18. Lucy Wright
    Mary Wright

    3 Snowflakes Wright

    Thank you, Kirsten.
    Warmly,
    Jen Wright

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  19. Isabella Ann Marie Gilman

    I think this is really great. Thanks!

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  20. Marylou Janice

    http://jonamie.wordpress.com/our-journey/

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  21. Amanda Gabrielle Mendez 7/29/1985

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  22. Praise Best

    http://thebestbeautifulmess.blogspot.com/2010/10/praise.html

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  23. Christine BonacquistiOctober 7, 2011 at 5:24 PM

    Sarah Beatrice....My niece...

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  24. Kristina Faith Page

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  25. Baby Goble (known to us as Peanut and Baby G)

    Goble(long o...we aren't turkeys!)

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  26. My goddaughter Carlin Hedrick (Car-Lynn Head-rick) stillborn at 22 weeks.

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  27. Jordan Gabe (gah-bee)

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  28. I would like to add my friends little girl who passed away at 6 weeks.
    Addison Leah Sheppard

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  29. Baby Wilson who was lost due to a tubal pregnancy...my baby brother or sister.

    Baby Wilson (the next generation) my niece or nephew lost to a mc.

    Rosalynn Ashbrook--born still at full term

    Thank you!

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  30. Hayden Neal and Garrett Lee born May 21, 2009 at 18 weeks and 4 days

    Quirt Otis born May 19, 2011 at 15 weeks and 5 days

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  31. Bryston (Brice-ton) Gabriel Cortez and Colton Joseph Cortez - August 15, 2010


    My blog - http://www.trena-freetofly.blogspot.com

    (I do want to say that in my blog I talk about my loss, my living children, trying to conceive and pregnancy)

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  32. Abigail Phillips.

    February 2003. Miscarriage.

    Fabulous idea! my blog is more about Annabelle, my CHDer born last year, but I've talked about Abigail numerous times as well in the past. reflectionsbykrista.blogspot.com

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  33. Baby Sommer (like the season)
    MC @ 6 weeks
    May 2009

    www.jsommerfamily.blogspot.com

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  34. I've got two:
    My cousin, Rowan Steppe-Viergutz [like you're rowin' a boat, steppy, and veer-goots]

    My mom's first child was miscarried at 1.5 months (someday, I'm going to meet him/her, and s/he and I are going to rejoice!)

    Thank you so much for doing this!

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  35. Lael Kluge
    (lay-el kloo-gee)
    name means "belonging to God"
    miscarried at 16 weeks

    Thank you so much for this. It's a beautiful way to remember the little lives that mean so much to us.

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  36. Alice Marie Kluge

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  38. Baby Kluge (pronounced Kloogee)

    Miscarried 1983 - 1st trimester. After all these years - still cry over the loss of our little love! Look forward to meeting someday in Heaven.

    Thanks for doing this for all of us!

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  39. Donald (Donny) Beatty Leavitt passed away at 5 weeks in 1964 with a heart defect. As his younger sister I am excited to meet him in Heaven someday.

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  40. Zephaniah Dekyr Klix (pronounced Decker and Clicks)

    zephaniahdekyr.blogspot.com

    Such a special way to remember, thank you!

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  41. Aleah Marie Dogeagle
    baby Dogeagle, pronounced like it sounds " dog eagle"
    http://journey2judah.blogspot.com/2011_04_01_archive.html

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  42. Elizabeth Mae
    and
    Baby Bean

    Wonderful idea - thank you!
    Sonja
    anotherblm.blogspot.com

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  43. Baby Egan (m/c)

    Thank you so very much for remembering this little soul

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  44. Baby Sanders m/c 6wks
    God Bless you, thank you for doing this.

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  45. Brody Michael Lukehart

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  46. my niece or nephew: baby Crenshaw
    my niece or nephew: baby Crenshaw

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  47. Baby Hagen m/c at 8 wks.

    thank you.

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  48. Harper Berkhahn
    www.blessedbythebear.blogspot.com

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  49. Baby Reenders- pronounced just like it is spelled, ee -long e sound in feet. Thank you!

    Miscarried at 5 weeks, 5 days- still a part of my heart.

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  50. Sean and Carolyn ThomasOctober 9, 2011 at 11:28 PM

    Teddy James Thomas

    m/c after only knowing for 4 days.

    We love yout!

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  51. I miscarried at 6 weeks...doctor confirmed my pregnancy on a Monday, and I miscarried on Thursday. That was 9 years ago ....and not a day goes by that I don't think about how different my life would be. But I also know that God doesn't make mistakes.

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  52. 'Blueberry' Sardegna, born into heaven July 16, 2011

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  53. Baby Bestgen (miscarried at 6 weeks)
    Fred Bestgen (miscarried at 15 weeks)

    Bestgen is pronounced "best-jen".


    Thank you so much, Kirsten.

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  54. Baby Greene (like the color)
    Miscarried at 12 weeks
    October 9, 2000

    Kirsten, you have made my heart smile. Thank you for remembering my child in such a special way!

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  55. Baby Williams (x's 2)
    My mom lost 2 baby boys due to miscarriage.

    Such a special thing you are doing Kirsten! Thank you!

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  56. Charlotte Delene Ritchie

    http://littlemissritchie.blogspot.com

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  57. Thank you for this chance to remember my babies.

    Stillborn 2/12/04 David James
    Miscarried:
    Amanda Maxine
    Daniel Robert
    Elizabeth Lynn
    Jacob Allen
    Sean Robert
    Rebekah Kay
    Katelyn Rose

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  58. Gabriel Elijah Stoltzfus

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  59. Sophia Alexis Davies

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  60. Katrina Suzanna Masulla. (Pronounced Ma-zoo-la)

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  61. Emma Abigail Dronen, born premature at 26 weeks on 2/26/06
    Campbell James Dronen, stillborn at 20 weeks on 3/6/07

    oh, and Dronen is pronounced Dro (like glow) nen (like when)

    thank you so much Kirsten :)

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  62. Thanks so much for doing this, and for including those who have had miscarriages.

    We had 3 miscarriages between 8 & 11 weeks so we didn't know the sex of the babies and didn't give them names.

    I like to think of them as my 3 Krug peanut angels watching over us and I am so looking forward to meeting them and seeing all 7 of my children playing together when we get to heaven.

    Thanks again, praying for you!!

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  63. Lilly Grace Johnson, 11 weeks
    Brake Patton Johnson, 18 weeks
    (http://rebuildingabrokenheart.blogspot.com)

    One of my dearest friends has also lost two babies, but doesn't have access to this. Her babies names are Isabella Denise Rochelle and Baby Rochelle.

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  64. Miscarried at 13 1/2 weeks
    Hunter Johnson
    Salina Faith Johnson

    Thankyou!!

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  65. Baby Fiegel (rhymes with seagull)
    1st trimester miscarriage - earned wings on October 27, 2007

    http://lovetwolittlebugs.blogspot.com/2010/07/remembering.html

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  66. Ewan Eliezer Petermann
    http://www.team-ewan.com/

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  67. Baby Rivers lost in 1st trimester.

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  68. Baby S

    m/c at 4w3d on 9/26/08

    Thank you for doing this Kirsten. You remain in my prayers.

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  69. Parker Kennedy Nahas (stillborn at 36 weeks)
    M/C at 8 weeks

    Thank you!

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  70. Hannah Marie Tolman
    born into heaven 11/13/07

    www.tolmanfamilyblog.blogspot.com

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  71. Matthew Ross Beach.
    June 27, 2011 - June 27, 2011

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  72. Hailey Faye McCrow
    7/18/09-12/02/09
    www.hopeforhailey.blogspot.com

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  73. Harper Michaela ....lost three days ago m/c I actually didn't know I counted and I thank you for being you and having the strength to inspire me to be strong...

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  74. Brayden Martin Altemier (Alt-a-myer)
    www.forevermissed.com/brayden-altemier (Brayden's website)
    and
    Ella Beth Altemier

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  75. Matthew Salvas (Sal-viss) - my baby sibling who was miscarried at 12 weeks. He would have been born in 2000.

    Thank you so much for doing this, Kirsten.

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  76. Jesse Harding, my little brother or sister.

    Alex Schaar (sh-are) May 2011

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  77. Briella Elisa Rocha, born at 25w6d on 3/31/11 and lived for 6 precious hours.

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  78. Baby Shaffer mc at 11 weeks on 12/30/02

    Logan Shaffer 2/5/05 ~ 3/28/05 CHD

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  79. Jaron (pronounced like "erin" with a J in front) LaRue - Dec 24th, 2000
    Chavonne (soft Ch - like shh) LaRue - March 19, 2001

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  80. Brandon Ty Garner

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  81. My son Gideon Michael
    My Grandson Chance Odin

    Kirsten...Because Ewan changed this world I can now say their names...thank you from my very soul♥

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  82. Gideon Raymond Matthew

    My blog https://tinyglimmers.wordpress.com

    Loved
    Missed
    Remembered

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  83. Aaron Matthew Selby
    http://www.selbysonline.blogspot.com

    Thank you for doing such a beautiful and selfless thing for our beloved babies, Kirsten!

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  84. Baby Pearson - I miscarried in November of 2006 at 13 weeks so we didn't know if our baby was a boy or a girl. I think about that baby a lot and can't wait to meet him or her one day. Thank you for what you are doing.

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  85. Jordan Yvanovich, May 2008, miscarried after 8 weeks.

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  86. Immaculee Michelle
    pronounced Im mack u lay

    Thank you so much1

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  87. Baby Smelser miscarried @ 9 weeks in Dec 2005

    Another Baby Smelser miscarried at 10 weeks (blyted ovum) July 2007

    Kirsten - you can say them however you choose... dates do not need to be included.

    Our last name is pronounced (Smell Sir)
    Thank you for doing this - it is amazing.

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  88. Vincent Elias (ee-LI-us)Johnson, stillborn at 24 weeks

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  89. Emma Grace and five other miscarriages.

    Thank you so much for doing this.

    http://danna-3pinkcupcakes.blogspot.com/p/miscarriages.html

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  90. Emma Eiliyah (/uh-lie-uh/); 12/7/09, 24w1d

    Much love to you, Kirsten!

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  91. Baby Carr m/c 2008
    Dorothy Ann Carr m/c 2009
    Baby Carr m/c 2010

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  92. Andrew "Drew" Walter Deye (DIE)
    Baby "Albos" (AL-BUS) Deye (DIE)

    Thank you for including my loves in your project :)

    http://spendtimeinmyshoes.blogspot.com/

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  93. Taylor Benjamin Enzor (stillborn 12/13/2006)
    Baby Enzor (m/c 5/26/07)

    Thank you for doing this!

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  94. My niece - Alianna Raquel Trujillo (Ahli-ana True-hiyo)

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  95. Harlow Elizabeth Schaefer

    Jessica Denise Tumminello

    Jordan Riley Tumminello

    (tum-ehn-ell-oh)

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  96. James Matthew Mannix
    10/2/01-10/13/01

    www.jamessproject.com/blog

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  97. wyatt daniel keith
    ethan daniel keith
    mary lynn keith
    our brown stars baby keith 1 & 2


    wyattsways.blogspot.com

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  98. My two munchkins:

    Julia Rose Davies
    Evan Riley Davies

    and my friends babies:
    Daniel TR Vidins
    Zachary Logan Hagin

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  100. My older sister Susan Heartly
    (she would be 40 now) carried full term, but gone at 5 months gestation. My mother says thank you.... and so do I

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  101. Elianna Sofia Essery

    E-lee-aHna sofia essery (s sound, not z). Thank you so much!

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  102. Jeremy Ryan Wilson 2-27-2011

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  103. jocelyn sara swords
    miscarried at 6 weeks gestation
    march 2004

    xavier ian swords
    (pronounced with a z not x)
    stillborn at 18 weeks gestation
    june 4, 2009

    http://swords9603.blogspot.com/

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  104. Madelyn Rose Sage-Lauck (the last name is pronounced "Sage" like the plant, and "Lowck")

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  105. It would mean a lot to me if you would say the name of my brother, Randy Jay Dickhausen. He was born on Oct. 15, 1965, so the day of your project would have been his 45th birthday. He died Nov. 27, 1965 of a congenital heart defect. Thank you for doing this. I'm looking forward to showing the video to my mother.

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  106. Samuel Stringfellow
    Joy Stringfellow
    Both miscarried at 8 weeks.

    Stringfellow, just as it looks, string + fellow

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  107. Our three little ones we miscarried:

    Loved one 2004
    Loved two 2010
    Loved three 2011

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  108. Tripp Shelton Taylor

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  109. My husband and I lost a baby at 12 weeks in 2002, which I feel in my spirit is a girl. We named her:

    Lanay

    http://www.princesswarriorlessons.com/p/miscarriage.html

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  110. PS - pronounced (la-nay) as it looks xo

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  111. Baby Lawlor "law-loar"(miscarriage at 12 weeks)

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  112. My niece or nephew...

    Baby Thomison (Thomas-son)
    Miscarriage at 9 wks.

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  113. Baby Matthew John lost at 9wks
    Baby Lansford lost 7wks
    baby Lansford lost 4wks

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  114. Abree Faith returned home at 10 days old.

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  115. Jaxton Oliver Mark Husmann (pronounced hoosmen)
    Lived 14 days and 30 minutes with Trisomy 18
    from his family who misses him so much,
    Lisa Josh & jake Husmann
    www.lisahusmann.wordpress.com

    Leah Faith Kaler - for one of my good friend Jen Kaler

    Charlotte Jean Loeser (pronounced (low-zer) for my good friend Aimee Loeser

    Sawyer Patick - for my mentor and friend Marsha Patick

    Thank you and many blessings being sent your way!!!

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  116. Robert Allen Bidwell
    Stillborn at 20 weeks 07/16/2006
    http://thebidwellcrew.blogspot.com/

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  117. Little One <3

    Lost at 11 1/2 weeks pregnant

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  118. For my baby sister, Monica Sue Faifer, (pronounced like the common Pfeiffer) 07/14/80 - 07/16/80. Thank you for this!

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  119. Colin Hunter Brown

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  120. Brylea Marie Branham (silent "H")
    born asleep at 36 weeks
    Baby Zoretic (pronounced just how it looks) m/c 2004

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  121. Kirsten, may I request three of "my" NICU babies?
    The first is Naomi... Samuel, and Eva Grace.
    Thank you...

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  122. Annie Grace Sabin
    Born with Tetralogy of Fallot with Absent Pulmonary Valve.
    3/30/2010- 8/1/2010.
    Missing her every day.
    anniesinmyheart.blogspot.com

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  123. Camille Katoch (Kay-Tosh)
    died and born June 30, 2011
    38 weeks pregnant.
    I miss her with every breath.
    http://38weeksandcountingtears.blogspot.com/

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  124. Caleb Thomas Doblar. Lived 3 precious days. September 27th-30th 2010. He had HLHS and other severe heart defects. Nlot a day goes by where I don't think of him, and remember his sweet smell.

    http://calebsheartstory.blogspot.com/

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  125. Matthew David Long
    Born with Down Syndrome
    and severe heart defects
    12/26/04-2/14/05

    Thank you!

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  126. Solomon Jedidiah Biggs

    Miscarried, August 1989, at about 10 weeks.

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  127. My little sister, Beth McCormick (lost in 1992), and two other siblings, Baby Harrison and Baby Harrison, lost in the early 80s.

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  128. Ayden Simon Peterson born still born at 24 weeks.

    www.petersontwinmiracls.blogspot.com

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  129. Troy Michael Potts passed at 5 days from SIDS. Thank-you!

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