08 November 2010

Reprise

I wrote this post at the end of June when I was still pregnant and still unsure of the path that was ahead of us. I was thinking of it this morning in a quiet moment, remembering how I wanted to invite God to provide healing to our souls through our experience of giving birth to and parenting Ewan. Though I had no idea of what was ahead of me, I knew it would challenge my heart and soul beyond anything I had ever before experienced. 

It was good for me to go back and read this this morning. As we settle into life again, as all the hubbub has died down, I'm feeling more of everything than I did before. It was as if the shock and newness of all that had happened in the sixteen days between Ewan's birth and his death had protected me from the full weight of grief and loss. That shock and newness has lessened now, and I feel it all more acutely than I did before. There are times now where the weeping takes me over and I can hardly breathe. That's when I remember this, the truth of what I wrote here. I remember the resurrection like we heard in the readings at Mass yesterday. The truth doesn't make it hurt any less (at least not for me), but it does frame the hurt in such a way that it is not hopeless. It is not despair.

And so I remember this, about finding healing in the very pain that at times feels as though it will undo me completely. I remember what I said at the end of Ewan's eulogy: though loving him broke my heart, it healed it, too.

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Have you ever had one of those "light bulb" moments -- where something that you overlooked or thought you understood before suddenly takes on a striking new meaning to you? I've just had that happen!

I read a passage in Hebrews the other day that I know I've read many times before. But this time I read it with new eyes, and with the knowledge of what lies on the path ahead. In the context of enduring all manner of hardship as discipline, the author writes this:
For [our earthly fathers] disciplined us for a short time as it seemed best to them, but he disciplines us for our good, that we may share his holiness. For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.

Therefore lift your drooping hands and strengthen your weak knees, and make straight paths for your feet, so that what is lame may not be put out of joint but rather be healed.
Hebrews 11:10-13
Do you see that last sentence? How is it this never clicked with me before?! I've read plenty about rejoicing in our suffering (which seems backward enough), and even grasped the concept that hardship is purifying. But this just gave rise to a sudden moment of clarity: something became clear that had been veiled in mystery before.

Let me see if I can explain. We get that we should endure hardship as discipline, because this is for our good. Hardship trains us, and eventually will yield the "peaceful fruit of righteousness."

The last sentence expands on this. If I'm reading this correctly, the author is basically saying this: Hardship will come, so make sure you are ready for it. Take care not to forget what you already know about living a righteous life (i.e., walking the "straight path": obeying God's commands, trusting His promises, even when it seems like none of it makes sense). This hardship will train and strengthen and heal those weak parts of you if you let them, but they also have the potential to weaken and injure if you're not walking the straight path. So be on your guard to make sure injury doesn't happen.

The author understands that hardship can affect us in one of two ways: the healing and "peaceful fruit of righteousness" way, or the "put out of joint" way. We know hardship will come for each of us. None of us is exempt. The best we can do is to prepare ourselves, doing everything in our power to see that our hardship makes us more like Christ, rather than allowing it to maim us when it comes.

One of the many reasons I write all these things in a blog is to remind myself, and to invite you to remind me of what I already know when our feet are to the fire. I do this so those weak parts of me won't be put out of joint, but rather strengthened and healed. Healed, I tell you. That's what the author of Hebrews says is one of the fruits of being trained by hardship.

Even though I cannot fathom how this experience has the potential to be healing, I want to invite God to do that.

Will you walk with me?

14 comments:

Sarah said...

But of course. I love you! I'll see you this weekend.

melifaif said...

I'm walking....

Rebecca said...

Step by step.

terri said...

i can't fathom it either.

i haven't been talking about it much (at all) but i've been suffering myself lately (i kind of go all cocoon-y when i'm in a lot of pain). and i know that these are the places of opportunity for jesus if we'll let him in. so i guess that's the whole discipline: inviting God into our broken places again and again so we can be healed.

when i read sarah's comment i got really excited. :)

The Sears Family said...

Just keep on swimming...
keep on swimming
~Merlin from "Nemo"

I tell myself this everyday. I walking with you.

Lots of love & prayers.

Dana Sears

Anonymous said...

Praying, walking, praying, walking.... Thank you again for sharing. XO Sarah V.

MarfMom said...

Thank you for sharing this verse! I think I'm going to hang it in my room to remind me every morning upon waking.

annamarie saarinen said...

Beautiful, just beautiful. Thank you for posting and reminding us of what your baby brought to all of us. What a gift. Thank you...and peace. Annamarie, 1in100

Lisa said...

most definitely walking with you.

Anonymous said...

I'm so happy to be walking with you!

Bria

di said...

still walking with you. falling down sometimes. crying, too. but still walking toward this healing. ultimately. pretty choppy.

Baby Hung said...

Thanks for sharing and explaining these verses. I'm still praying for you daily.

felmleyfam said...

praying for you in the midst of the acute. so thankful for your looking to Christ and his truth, that is our continual prayer and this post is an answer to it.

Jess said...

What an amazing look into the heart of God. I love how He hides things away in His word, just for us. So that in the very time we need it most He can show us that He was already prepared for what we would go through and that He already has the answers waiting. Your faith urges me to be more faithful and trust the Lord has his hand on every part of my life. I hope you can be blessed knowing your journey is affecting so many other lives of people you may never meet or know :)