Someone asked me yesterday why it was so important and meaningful to hear your child's name spoken out loud. How is it that something so simple carries such weight and meaning to those of us who have had to say goodbye? I imagine there are many and various ways those of us who have experienced this type of loss could answer this question, but answering for myself, I had to say that it is because it is validating.
It says to me: I recognize your child as a unique person. I recognize that this child is a product of your love and your hope. I recognize that this child is a part of your family. I recognize that this child's absence leaves a wide open space in your heart that will not be filled by anything else. Saying my child's name out loud says: they were here, they are here, and they will always be loved and remembered.
There's still some time to submit names if you haven't had a chance to do so yet. Anyone (even if you don't have a Google account or any other type of online account) can submit a child's name to be spoken aloud in the video. I've requested the names be submitted by 3 pm Eastern Time, but (this is important) feel free to keep on submitting them as long as the comments remain open. If the comments are still open, this means I haven't started working on the video yet. So feel free!
To submit a name:
1. Go to this post.Oh, and another thing.
2. Scroll down to the bottom of the post.
3. Click on the link where it says "Post a Comment."
4. Scroll to the bottom of the comments section and type your child's name in the available box. Pronunciation tips for names are most welcome! It's important to me that your child's name is said correctly. If you want me to link back to a blog or webpage, please feel free to include that in the comments section as well.
5. Choose the identity for submitting your comment (your Google Account, Name & URL, etc.). If you don't have any of these online accounts, select "Anonymous."
6. Click "Publish Your Comment."
This article speaking to the heartbreak of infant loss has been making the rounds on Facebook and in other social media, but if you haven't had a chance, I highly recommend reading it. It speaks candidly and openly as to what those of us who have lost a child experience. It's incredible when someone can really put a finger on what so many of us lack the words for.
Many, many thanks to all who have participated. Tomorrow, we remember together. I look forward to sharing this time with you.