07 October 2011

Say Their Names :: For Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Day

Last year, I marked October 15 for the first time. It was the first time I could be counted amongst the one in four women who lose a child to miscarriage, stillbirth, or early infant death (the CDC defines "early infant death" as the death of a child prior to one year of age). Like the others who are counted in that one in four, it has been and continues to be important to me that the life of the child I lost is not trivialized. It is important to me that my son's life is acknowledged.

say their names

On October 15 of last year, my grief was so fresh. We had buried my son less than a week prior. Something like this would not have been possible. Now there's something I'd like to do to acknowledge not just my loss, but if you are included in that one in four, your loss as well. If I'm going to do that, I need your help to make it happen.

Please take a look at the below video and consider whether or not you'd like to participate.

For a written summary of the video (or to review in writing the details included in the video), see the Say Their Names link at the top of the page.

For those of you wishing to participate, please make your submissions no later than Friday, October 14 by 3 p.m. (EST).

If you wish to include a Say Their Names badge on your own blog as a way of inviting others to participate, there is a badge available at the top of the sidebar on the left. The badge will link to the Say Their Names page at the top of the blog, which also contains a link to this post. Badge size is 220 x 147 pixels.

Or you can grab it here:

say their names


Lisa said...

Natasha Anastasia Forgie (Four-gee)

Anonymous said...

Benjamin Friel, Brooke Friel, Ryan Friel(prounounce Freel).

Maria Mackey said...

Emma Frances and Sophia Marie Mackey (Mack-key)

Michelle said...

Sawyer Erik Williams http://sawyersheart.blogspot.com

April said...

Noah Paul Weinshrott (wine-shrott)

Amy said...

Ethan Richard Reid

Billie Jo Holliday said...

Alexis Jade and the other 18 Holliday babies.
(I don't know how else to include them- I had 17 m/c's including 1 set of twins thank you for including them)

Anonymous said...

I miscarried my baby at 5 weeks, so of course I don't know if my first baby was a boy or girl, but I do know that in Heaven, I will meet that precious first child of mine!! I have talked openly to my 2 boys about them having a brother or sister that they will meet in Heaven!! Thank you for remembering my child.

Kathryn @ Expectant Hearts said...

Baby Gabriel Bonnett (m/c)
Baby Ransym Bonnett (m/c)
Seth Douglas Bonnett

(Bonnett is pronounced like a bonnet you wear on your head)

MeganLThompson said...

My baby brother, born still at 24 weeks. Elijah Christopher Lovelace.

Stacey Risner said...

Hezekiah Samuel Risner
Tabitha Grace Risner

Anonymous said...

Baby Thornton

Chris, Sam, Moo, and Baby A said...

Brenna McNeil
Brantley McNeil
Thank you so much for doing this! <3

Lisa Stewart said...

my niece, baby Hope, lost at 37 weeks

Natalie said...

Sophia Lynn Dumontel (do-montel) 8-17-2008

second cousin to Natasha Anastasia Forgie (four-gee)

Angles in heaven together.

Dana said...

Maggie Elizabeth or Tomas Carmelo m/c 11/2000 at 7 weeks(Tomas pronounced like Thomas).

Kirsten, thank you for acknowledging miscarriage as a very real and painful loss.

Emily (Laundry and Lullabies) said...

Sara Elizabeth Moothart
Benjamin Joseph Moothart
Abigail Renee Moothart
Robert Emmanuel Moothart

Renee is pronounced "Ren-ay" and Moothart is pronounced "Moot-heart"

Thank you for including those of us who have miscarried our children. It is good to have our loss acknowledged alongside yours.

Ariel said...

baby Cook('11) and
baby Schappell('07)

Ariel said...

oops.. Schappell is pronounce (sha-pell)

Jen said...

Lucy Wright
Mary Wright

3 Snowflakes Wright

Thank you, Kirsten.
Jen Wright

Jeanine said...

Isabella Ann Marie Gilman

I think this is really great. Thanks!

Abuk said...

Marylou Janice


Mary Gensler said...

Amanda Gabrielle Mendez 7/29/1985

Heather Best said...

Praise Best


Christine Bonacquisti said...

Sarah Beatrice....My niece...

colleen said...


Anonymous said...

Kristina Faith Page

AlissaG said...

Baby Goble (known to us as Peanut and Baby G)

Goble(long o...we aren't turkeys!)

Anonymous said...

My goddaughter Carlin Hedrick (Car-Lynn Head-rick) stillborn at 22 weeks.

Anonymous said...

Benjamin James

Jessica said...

Jordan Gabe (gah-bee)

Anonymous said...

I would like to add my friends little girl who passed away at 6 weeks.
Addison Leah Sheppard

Julie said...

Baby Wilson who was lost due to a tubal pregnancy...my baby brother or sister.

Baby Wilson (the next generation) my niece or nephew lost to a mc.

Rosalynn Ashbrook--born still at full term

Thank you!

MandyRae said...

Hayden Neal and Garrett Lee born May 21, 2009 at 18 weeks and 4 days

Quirt Otis born May 19, 2011 at 15 weeks and 5 days

Trena said...

Bryston (Brice-ton) Gabriel Cortez and Colton Joseph Cortez - August 15, 2010

My blog - http://www.trena-freetofly.blogspot.com

(I do want to say that in my blog I talk about my loss, my living children, trying to conceive and pregnancy)

Krista Phillips said...

Abigail Phillips.

February 2003. Miscarriage.

Fabulous idea! my blog is more about Annabelle, my CHDer born last year, but I've talked about Abigail numerous times as well in the past. reflectionsbykrista.blogspot.com

Jenn said...

Baby Sommer (like the season)
MC @ 6 weeks
May 2009


Emily Viergutz said...

I've got two:
My cousin, Rowan Steppe-Viergutz [like you're rowin' a boat, steppy, and veer-goots]

My mom's first child was miscarried at 1.5 months (someday, I'm going to meet him/her, and s/he and I are going to rejoice!)

Thank you so much for doing this!

Athena said...

Lael Kluge
(lay-el kloo-gee)
name means "belonging to God"
miscarried at 16 weeks

Thank you so much for this. It's a beautiful way to remember the little lives that mean so much to us.

Isabel and Joey said...

Alice Marie Kluge

Peggy said...
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Peggy said...

Baby Kluge (pronounced Kloogee)

Miscarried 1983 - 1st trimester. After all these years - still cry over the loss of our little love! Look forward to meeting someday in Heaven.

Thanks for doing this for all of us!

by: Kim said...

Donald (Donny) Beatty Leavitt passed away at 5 weeks in 1964 with a heart defect. As his younger sister I am excited to meet him in Heaven someday.

WLJZA said...

Zephaniah Dekyr Klix (pronounced Decker and Clicks)


Such a special way to remember, thank you!

Anonymous said...

Aleah Marie Dogeagle
baby Dogeagle, pronounced like it sounds " dog eagle"

SG said...

Elizabeth Mae
Baby Bean

Wonderful idea - thank you!

Ingrid's Organic Body Care said...

baby felmley

Anonymous said...

Baby Egan (m/c)

Thank you so very much for remembering this little soul

Anonymous said...

Baby Sanders m/c 6wks
God Bless you, thank you for doing this.

Anonymous said...

Brody Michael Lukehart

Shay said...

my niece or nephew: baby Crenshaw
my niece or nephew: baby Crenshaw

Unknown said...

Baby Hagen m/c at 8 wks.

thank you.

Wendy said...

Harper Berkhahn

amanda said...

Baby Reenders- pronounced just like it is spelled, ee -long e sound in feet. Thank you!

Miscarried at 5 weeks, 5 days- still a part of my heart.

Sean and Carolyn Thomas said...

Teddy James Thomas

m/c after only knowing for 4 days.

We love yout!

Stephanie said...

I miscarried at 6 weeks...doctor confirmed my pregnancy on a Monday, and I miscarried on Thursday. That was 9 years ago ....and not a day goes by that I don't think about how different my life would be. But I also know that God doesn't make mistakes.

Julie said...

'Blueberry' Sardegna, born into heaven July 16, 2011

Jill said...

Joshua Haskins

Anonymous said...

Baby Bestgen (miscarried at 6 weeks)
Fred Bestgen (miscarried at 15 weeks)

Bestgen is pronounced "best-jen".

Thank you so much, Kirsten.

Karisa Greene said...

Baby Greene (like the color)
Miscarried at 12 weeks
October 9, 2000

Kirsten, you have made my heart smile. Thank you for remembering my child in such a special way!

Renia Flaishans said...

Baby Williams (x's 2)
My mom lost 2 baby boys due to miscarriage.

Such a special thing you are doing Kirsten! Thank you!

Kristen said...

Charlotte Delene Ritchie


Anonymous said...

Thank you for this chance to remember my babies.

Stillborn 2/12/04 David James
Amanda Maxine
Daniel Robert
Elizabeth Lynn
Jacob Allen
Sean Robert
Rebekah Kay
Katelyn Rose

Anonymous said...

Gabriel Elijah Stoltzfus

Anonymous said...

Sophia Alexis Davies

Mandie Hamrick said...

Katrina Suzanna Masulla. (Pronounced Ma-zoo-la)

Amy said...

Emma Abigail Dronen, born premature at 26 weeks on 2/26/06
Campbell James Dronen, stillborn at 20 weeks on 3/6/07

oh, and Dronen is pronounced Dro (like glow) nen (like when)

thank you so much Kirsten :)

Keri Krug said...

Thanks so much for doing this, and for including those who have had miscarriages.

We had 3 miscarriages between 8 & 11 weeks so we didn't know the sex of the babies and didn't give them names.

I like to think of them as my 3 Krug peanut angels watching over us and I am so looking forward to meeting them and seeing all 7 of my children playing together when we get to heaven.

Thanks again, praying for you!!

Nika M. said...

Lilly Grace Johnson, 11 weeks
Brake Patton Johnson, 18 weeks

One of my dearest friends has also lost two babies, but doesn't have access to this. Her babies names are Isabella Denise Rochelle and Baby Rochelle.

Ashley said...

Miscarried at 13 1/2 weeks
Hunter Johnson
Salina Faith Johnson


BandP said...

Baby Fiegel (rhymes with seagull)
1st trimester miscarriage - earned wings on October 27, 2007


kirsten said...

Ewan Eliezer Petermann

Anonymous said...

Baby Rivers lost in 1st trimester.

Anonymous said...

Baby S

m/c at 4w3d on 9/26/08

Thank you for doing this Kirsten. You remain in my prayers.

Karen said...

Parker Kennedy Nahas (stillborn at 36 weeks)
M/C at 8 weeks

Thank you!

Teresa said...

Hannah Marie Tolman
born into heaven 11/13/07


KBPhotographie said...

Mackenzie Grace Bryan

Brooke said...

Matthew Ross Beach.
June 27, 2011 - June 27, 2011

Hailey's Mom said...

Hailey Faye McCrow

Mindy said...

Rachel Campbell Smith

LoneStarLady said...

Harper Michaela ....lost three days ago m/c I actually didn't know I counted and I thank you for being you and having the strength to inspire me to be strong...

Bethany Jo Anderson said...

Taylor Layne Anderson Aug 30,2011

Anonymous said...

Brayden Martin Altemier (Alt-a-myer)
www.forevermissed.com/brayden-altemier (Brayden's website)
Ella Beth Altemier

Anonymous said...

Matthew Salvas (Sal-viss) - my baby sibling who was miscarried at 12 weeks. He would have been born in 2000.

Thank you so much for doing this, Kirsten.

Rachelle said...

Jesse Harding, my little brother or sister.

Alex Schaar (sh-are) May 2011

Rachelle said...


Rachel Rocha said...

Briella Elisa Rocha, born at 25w6d on 3/31/11 and lived for 6 precious hours.

saw2sas said...

Baby Shaffer mc at 11 weeks on 12/30/02

Logan Shaffer 2/5/05 ~ 3/28/05 CHD

Melissa said...

Jaron (pronounced like "erin" with a J in front) LaRue - Dec 24th, 2000
Chavonne (soft Ch - like shh) LaRue - March 19, 2001

kdactyl said...

Baby twins DuChien (Doo-Shane)

Janet Garner said...

Brandon Ty Garner

Yvonne Ledford said...

My son Gideon Michael
My Grandson Chance Odin

Kirsten...Because Ewan changed this world I can now say their names...thank you from my very soul♥

Victoria said...

Gideon Raymond Matthew

My blog https://tinyglimmers.wordpress.com


Danielle said...

Aaron Matthew Selby

Thank you for doing such a beautiful and selfless thing for our beloved babies, Kirsten!

Leslie said...

Baby Pearson - I miscarried in November of 2006 at 13 weeks so we didn't know if our baby was a boy or a girl. I think about that baby a lot and can't wait to meet him or her one day. Thank you for what you are doing.

Miriam said...

Jordan Yvanovich, May 2008, miscarried after 8 weeks.

R_Manry said...

Dallas Caldwell

Anonymous said...

Immaculee Michelle
pronounced Im mack u lay

Thank you so much1

Kim Smelser said...

Baby Smelser miscarried @ 9 weeks in Dec 2005

Another Baby Smelser miscarried at 10 weeks (blyted ovum) July 2007

Kirsten - you can say them however you choose... dates do not need to be included.

Our last name is pronounced (Smell Sir)
Thank you for doing this - it is amazing.

Brent said...

Vincent Elias (ee-LI-us)Johnson, stillborn at 24 weeks

Danna said...

Emma Grace and five other miscarriages.

Thank you so much for doing this.


Julie said...

Emma Eiliyah (/uh-lie-uh/); 12/7/09, 24w1d

Much love to you, Kirsten!

Anonymous said...

Baby Carr m/c 2008
Dorothy Ann Carr m/c 2009
Baby Carr m/c 2010

Anonymous said...

Elizabeth Jane

Anonymous said...

Duane Schultz Jr

Kate said...

Andrew "Drew" Walter Deye (DIE)
Baby "Albos" (AL-BUS) Deye (DIE)

Thank you for including my loves in your project :)


Jennifer said...

Taylor Benjamin Enzor (stillborn 12/13/2006)
Baby Enzor (m/c 5/26/07)

Thank you for doing this!

Anonymous said...

My niece - Alianna Raquel Trujillo (Ahli-ana True-hiyo)

Nicole Greene said...

Aimee Isabel Greene

Anonymous said...

Harlow Elizabeth Schaefer

Jessica Denise Tumminello

Jordan Riley Tumminello


Mary Ellen Mannix,MRPE said...

James Matthew Mannix


paula said...

wyatt daniel keith
ethan daniel keith
mary lynn keith
our brown stars baby keith 1 & 2


Anonymous said...

Luke Aaron Sexton

Ausmerican Housewife - Creating with Kara Davies said...

My two munchkins:

Julia Rose Davies
Evan Riley Davies

and my friends babies:
Daniel TR Vidins
Zachary Logan Hagin

Weird Girls Who Write said...
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Weird Girls Who Write said...

My older sister Susan Heartly
(she would be 40 now) carried full term, but gone at 5 months gestation. My mother says thank you.... and so do I

TinaE said...

Elianna Sofia Essery

E-lee-aHna sofia essery (s sound, not z). Thank you so much!

Anonymous said...

My Two Angels

Anonymous said...

Jeremy Ryan Wilson 2-27-2011

michelle hs said...

jocelyn sara swords
miscarried at 6 weeks gestation
march 2004

xavier ian swords
(pronounced with a z not x)
stillborn at 18 weeks gestation
june 4, 2009


Jeff and Julie said...

Madelyn Rose Sage-Lauck (the last name is pronounced "Sage" like the plant, and "Lowck")

Tammy said...

Nicholas O. <3

Franci said...

It would mean a lot to me if you would say the name of my brother, Randy Jay Dickhausen. He was born on Oct. 15, 1965, so the day of your project would have been his 45th birthday. He died Nov. 27, 1965 of a congenital heart defect. Thank you for doing this. I'm looking forward to showing the video to my mother.

Megan said...

Samuel Stringfellow
Joy Stringfellow
Both miscarried at 8 weeks.

Stringfellow, just as it looks, string + fellow

Kathryn said...

Our three little ones we miscarried:

Loved one 2004
Loved two 2010
Loved three 2011

Krystle said...

Tripp Shelton Taylor

Anonymous said...

My husband and I lost a baby at 12 weeks in 2002, which I feel in my spirit is a girl. We named her:



Anonymous said...

PS - pronounced (la-nay) as it looks xo

Ashlet said...

Rory Mae

Unknown said...

Baby Lawlor "law-loar"(miscarriage at 12 weeks)

Kaci said...

My niece or nephew...

Baby Thomison (Thomas-son)
Miscarriage at 9 wks.

A homeschool mother to many said...

Baby Matthew John lost at 9wks
Baby Lansford lost 7wks
baby Lansford lost 4wks

Amanda and Matt said...

Abree Faith returned home at 10 days old.

Lisa Husmann Platinum Events said...

Jaxton Oliver Mark Husmann (pronounced hoosmen)
Lived 14 days and 30 minutes with Trisomy 18
from his family who misses him so much,
Lisa Josh & jake Husmann

Leah Faith Kaler - for one of my good friend Jen Kaler

Charlotte Jean Loeser (pronounced (low-zer) for my good friend Aimee Loeser

Sawyer Patick - for my mentor and friend Marsha Patick

Thank you and many blessings being sent your way!!!

JJ said...

Robert Allen Bidwell
Stillborn at 20 weeks 07/16/2006

Kasie Walters said...

Little One <3

Lost at 11 1/2 weeks pregnant

melifaif said...

For my baby sister, Monica Sue Faifer, (pronounced like the common Pfeiffer) 07/14/80 - 07/16/80. Thank you for this!

Tess said...

Christina Dahlia Lopez-Shafer

Anonymous said...

Colin Hunter Brown

Anonymous said...

Brylea Marie Branham (silent "H")
born asleep at 36 weeks
Baby Zoretic (pronounced just how it looks) m/c 2004

rosecalyx said...

Kirsten, may I request three of "my" NICU babies?
The first is Naomi... Samuel, and Eva Grace.
Thank you...

Amy Sabin said...

Annie Grace Sabin
Born with Tetralogy of Fallot with Absent Pulmonary Valve.
3/30/2010- 8/1/2010.
Missing her every day.

Renel said...

Camille Katoch (Kay-Tosh)
died and born June 30, 2011
38 weeks pregnant.
I miss her with every breath.

Lauren said...

Caleb Thomas Doblar. Lived 3 precious days. September 27th-30th 2010. He had HLHS and other severe heart defects. Nlot a day goes by where I don't think of him, and remember his sweet smell.


Jennifer Long said...

Matthew David Long
Born with Down Syndrome
and severe heart defects

Thank you!

Anonymous said...

Solomon Jedidiah Biggs

Miscarried, August 1989, at about 10 weeks.

Jen said...

My little sister, Beth McCormick (lost in 1992), and two other siblings, Baby Harrison and Baby Harrison, lost in the early 80s.

Brielles MoMmA said...

Ayden Simon Peterson born still born at 24 weeks.


Trista Lea Garza said...

Troy Michael Potts passed at 5 days from SIDS. Thank-you!